In recent years, more people have started asking self-reflective questions like:
- Why do I experience the world so differently?
- Why do certain things seem so much harder (or easier) for me than they are for others?
- Could I be neurodivergent?
If you’ve been exploring these questions — whether you’re newly diagnosed, self-identifying, or just starting to notice some patterns — you’re not alone. And you’re in the right place.
This is a welcoming introduction to autism, ADHD, AuDHD, and the neurodiversity movement. I aim to help you feel more seen and understood — and hopefully a little more empowered, too.
So, what is neurodiversity?
The term neurodiversity was coined in the late 1990s by autistic sociologist Judy Singer. It refers to the natural diversity of human brains and minds, just like biodiversity describes the variety in nature.
Rather than viewing certain neurotypes (like autism or ADHD) as “disorders” to be fixed, the neurodiversity paradigm recognises them as valid ways of existing. People aren’t broken for thinking, sensing, or feeling differently. They’re just... different. And that’s not only okay — it’s incredibly valuable.
The neurodiversity movement challenges the idea that there’s a “normal” or “correct” way to think, behave, or relate to others. It pushes back against ableism and advocates for acceptance, support, accessibility, and meaningful inclusion, not just tolerance.
What is autism?
Autism is a neurodevelopmental difference that shapes how someone experiences the world — socially, emotionally, cognitively, and physically. It’s often misunderstood, especially when viewed through outdated stereotypes.
Autistic people might:
- Process sensory input more intensely (light, sound, touch, etc.)
- Prefer routine and predictability
- Experience deep focus or passion for certain interests
- Communicate in more direct or nuanced ways
- Struggle with burnout, shutdowns, or masking in social settings
Autism isn’t something that needs to be “fixed.” It’s a valid neurotype with its own strengths and challenges. The issue isn’t being autistic; the issue is often the lack of understanding and accommodation from the world around us.
Many people, especially adults assigned female at birth or those who are gender-diverse, don’t get diagnosed until much later in life. And for some, self-identification can be just as meaningful as a formal diagnosis.
What about ADHD?
ADHD (Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder — though many people prefer to drop the “disorder” part) is also a neurodevelopmental difference that affects attention, memory, motivation, and emotional regulation.
ADHD people often experience:
- Difficulty with focus, especially on tasks that feel boring or overwhelming
- Forgetfulness, time blindness, and executive functioning challenges
- Restlessness or a constant need for movement/stimulation
- Intense emotions and sensitivity to rejection
- Periods of hyperfocus on things they’re deeply interested in
ADHD isn’t a lack of discipline or effort. It’s a difference in how the brain is wired to process dopamine, which plays a key role in motivation and reward. With understanding and support, people with ADHD can thrive, even if their path looks different to the typical one.
What is AuDHD?
AuDHD is a term used by people who are both autistic and ADHD. And yes — it’s very common for these neurotypes to overlap. In fact, research suggests that a significant number of people with one are also likely to have the other.
Living with AuDHD can mean having:
- A deep need for structure — but struggling to maintain it
- Sensory overwhelm and a need for novelty
- Big emotions, big thoughts, and a brain that rarely stops buzzing
- Burnout from masking, people-pleasing, or trying to fit into systems not designed for you
For many of us with AuDHD, it can feel like being too much and not enough all at once. Like you're constantly toggling between opposite needs. But the truth is, your brain isn’t broken — it’s just complex. And it deserves compassion and care.
Why language matters
You’ll notice I use terms like autistic person or ADHD person. This is called identity-first language. It reflects that many neurodivergent people see their neurotype as part of who they are, not something separate. That said, everyone’s preferences are different, and it's important to honour the language neurodivergent people are most comfortable with as individuals!
If ever in doubt, just ask a person about their language preference in the same way you would ask someone what their pronouns are, or what name they like to be called by.
If you're still trying to figure out what works best for you as a neurodivergent person, that's okay! Trial a few different ways and see what feels most fitting to you.
A note from me — counsellor, and a fellow neurodivergent person
I'm not just writing about this as a professional, but as someone with lived experience.
I’m an autistic ADHDer who knows what it’s like to navigate a world that often feels overwhelming, confusing, or draining. I know the exhaustion of masking, the spiral of overthinking, the shame that can come from not fitting in, and the relief of finally feeling understood.
That’s why I’ve built my counselling practice to be a space where neurodivergent people can feel safe, seen, and supported, without needing to “perform” or pretend.
Whether you're just starting to explore your neurodivergence or you’ve known about it for a while, therapy can be a powerful space for unmasking, processing, and reconnecting with your true self.
If you’re looking for someone who gets it — someone who can support you in ways that feel affirming, collaborative, and real, I’d love to work with you.
You’re welcome here, just as you are!
Book a free 15 minute consult with me today and take the next step on your path with a counsellor who genuinely understands.
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